Getting Pregnant? Gender Selection Tips to Help You Chose Your Baby’s Sex

I have a few blogs that support couples in choosing their baby’s sex.  Most times, people find me because they are thinking about or trying to get pregnant and they know, without a doubt, that they want one to have one gender over another.  The reasons for this vary.  Sometimes, they may already have a boy and want a girl. Perhaps they want a son to carry on the family name.  Maybe one gender runs in their family and they want to change this trend.  Whatever the reason, there are universal tips that will help you chose your baby’s sex.  This article will discuss them, and will tell you why, and how, they work.

What Determines Your Baby’s Sex: There are a lot of old wives tales that explain why couples have one gender over another.  Whether you believe these or not, the bottom line is, if a sperm with female chromosomes (X) reaches and fertilizes your egg first, you’ll have a daughter. If a boy containing sperm fertilizes the egg, you’ll have a son. 

The chances are pretty equal (about 50 / 50) for each baby gender if you do nothing to change this. That doesn’t mean, however, that you don’t have any control over which one ultimately wins the race.  There are quite a few things that you can do to influence this.  You can control your timing, your diet, your acidity, and the way that that you send the sperm to the egg.  I’ll discuss all of these things in more detail below.

Controlling Conception Timing To Chose Your Baby’s Gender:  As stated before, the sperm chromosomes are extremely important, but you should also understand that the X and Y sperm behave very differently.  The girl chromosomes are very strong and will live much longer, but the boy sperm are much faster.  Choosing your baby’s sex then requires you to take advantage of these things. 

There is a “fertility window” in your cycle, which are the days that give you your best chance of getting pregnant.  If you want a girl, you should shoot for the beginning of this window, which is about three days (or as many as 4) before you ovulate. If you want a boy, shoot for the end of the window, which is the day of, or one day after, ovulation.

Speaking more of old wives tales, there are many ways you’re told to gauge or predict,  your ovulation (basal temperature, rhythm method, cervical mucus), but modern technology works much better and is much more accurate.  Ovulation predictors, in my experience, work much better. Using cervical mucus, I thought I wasn’t ovulating and was having trouble getting pregnant.  Once I started using a saliva ovulation predictor, I was happily pregnant within two months – because I could literally see when I was getting ready to ovulate.

Sending The Sperm To The Egg: Sexual Positioning And Gender Selection: Remembering that the girl sperm can live for several days, if you’re trying to conceive a baby girl, you should use sexual or intercourse positions that are shallow, because this places the sperm far away from where it needs to go.  This makes it more difficult for boy sperm.  If you want to conceive a baby boy, use deeper penetration, as you need to give the Y chromosomes the shortest, fastest trip possible for a son.   

Getting The Right Acidity To Get The Gender You Want:  Remembering that the boy sperm are weak, you’ll need likely need to lower or alkaline your vaginal PH if you want a son.  Boy sperm just can not survive an environment that is too acidic.  But, if you want a girl, you’ll want to raise or exploit your acidity.  This is where many people give up, and it frustrates me. This process is not as hard as you think. Get a PH tester at a health food store or online.  This will tell you where you are starting.  Then, you can change your diet or douche appropriately until you are in the correct range.

The biggest mistake that I see people making is just using just one technique.  Maybe they’re really good about timing their conception only to leave everything else to chance.  Or, maybe they use the correct sexual position on the wrong day.  Or, maybe they just bypass their acidity all together.  To really be sure that you’ll get the gender you want, you need to address all of these.  And, with a little patience and the right tools, this doesn’t have to be as difficult as you think, even if one gender ones in your family. It’s said that if you correctly address all of the variables, you can raise your odds to well over 90%, which in my experience is very much worth the effort.